What’s the best thing about a barn friend? To start, let’s just say it’s great to have pals at the place where you spend most of your time. Friends who understand the horse-related ups and downs of life; who know just when you need a shoulder to cry on, or a couple of cold ones at the end of a long show day (and can tell the difference between the two).

Barn friends aren’t shy about sharing—or borrowing—riding crops, saddle pads, or tack cleaning supplies. They’ll video tape all your show rounds without having to be asked. And they’ll give honest assessments of your horse’s soundness, your chronic equitation flaws, and most other things you should but would rather not hear. But a good barn friend is one in a million.

Here are 10 signs that you’ve found a keeper.